The Formula For Success

I’m sure you have heard the famous quote by Desmond Tutu “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” But have you really thought about its meaning? I hadn’t until this weekend.

As I embark on organizing my lifetime of experience into an online learning platform, this expression has never been more relevant. What Desmond meant was that no matter what seemingly elephant-sized obstacle life throws at you, you can accomplish it if you just take it one step at a time.

Sounds easy right? So why don’t we all accomplish our dreams and goals and live happily ever after?

Because it takes work!

Because it means we have to think! (gasp)

And those are two things that make us uncomfortable.

Creating or starting something new can be daunting for anyone, especially in the age of distraction and comfort. It’s much easier to scroll through Youtube, Instagram, and Netflix consuming other people’s content instead of sacrificing, sweating, and doing the work to produce your own.

It’s way easier to start eating better on that magic Monday, or finally start exercising once “work slows down”. The problem is Monday never comes and work never slows down.

So many people fail to realize their dreams because the task of accomplishing those dreams seems so daunting in its totality they freeze up and quit. We are so used to instant gratification that we give up on our goals at the first obstacle.

Or on the flipside we try to change everything all at once and get burnt out by waking up earlier than usual, restricting our diet, and going HAM in the gym on day 1. Unfortunately, this leads to you feeling stressed out, sore, and exhausted, so you give up.

You can’t eat an elephant in one bite, nor can you eat it all in one day.

So what’s the solution? What’s the formula for success? Simple, start and never stop.

That’s right I love to be the bearer of good news, and the good news is you can do anything you wish if you start and don’t quit!

Like writing this article. I start with an idea and then I begin to put words to page. Is it perfect no, but it’s progress. I write and I refine. I cut things out, I add more in, and little by little you have something to be proud of.

Everything in life is this way, especially your health, wealth, and eventually happiness.

Health is an ongoing life long process that takes daily effort and adaptation as you age. In our 20’s we can lift, eat crap, party, and still feel great, but as the 30’s creep up we have to party less, eat better, and once we hit our 40’s it’s even worse!!! I’m 42 and I barely drink, eat good 80% of the time, and MOVE EVERYDAY. That’s right in order to be healthy today my behavior is totally different then it was 5 years ago, and I have been training my whole life.

You can’t think your way to health, you have to MOVE towards it. You have to take action towards being stronger, faster, and more resilient. If you aren’t moving forward you are going backwards. Time will pass with or without your consent so be sure to use it to your advantage. Don’t have time? That’s bullshit, you need to make time.

Don’t build your health around your job, build your job around your health!

It’s the same with wealth. No one becomes wealthy by accident. It takes years of making mistakes, learning from those mistakes, and using that wisdom to build up your money. It takes small decisions daily like eating out less, buying less crap, and investing in yourself by taking classes, hiring coaches, and putting your money to work for you in the markets. It’s not the big checks that make you wealthy it’s the daily decisions that build up over time to create a mindset of wealth. Look at all the athletes that go broke or the lottery winners who blow the money. Wealth is like health in that it’s a mindset that must be cultivated over time with attention to detail, sacrifice, and effort.

Now for the bad news. Becoming the best version of yourself is a life long process. There is no 3 month plan to get fit quick, just like their is no 3 month plan to get rich quick. It’s a daily ritual of exercise, eating whole foods, prioritizing your sleep, and investing your income into yourself.

You won’t see results right away. It will takes weeks of effort to see even the tiniest change, it will take months to see considerable change, and it will take years to build the foundation of happiness, but once you do this for years, you can’t lose it quick either. The time begins to work for you at some point. The muscle stays longer, the bank account grows faster, and you will have more time than ever.

It took me 8 years of running a business to be free. Free to make my own schedule. Free to exercise when I wanted. Free to travel where I want when I want, and free to help others find their happiness.

We have one shot at life here on earth, and we have been given the gift of free will. That free will comes with a price though, and that price must be paid everyday. We can choose to sit idly consuming media, processed foods, and material possesions as time passes us by or we can use that time to our advantage and be an example to the world of what it means to live a life of health, happiness, and freedom.




My mission is to help you become the best version of yourself by creating a life centered around health, personal development, and total responsibility.

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John Kelly

John Kelly

My mission is to help you become the best version of yourself by creating a life centered around health, personal development, and total responsibility.

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